With age comes a certain amount of freedom. Here are 10 things I love best about being over 50.
1. Always wanted to direct films, cook at your leisure, travel, spend your days fishing, or buy that little bookstore you’ve admired, for years? Go for it! We can follow your dreams more than ever before.
2. A condo looks appealing. We no longer need the huge house: the dusting, the vacuuming, the leak in the roof, the lawn to be mowed, and to pick up after everyone. The result? More time to spend on what we want to do.
3. We have at least 40 more years of life ahead of you. According to the National Post, Canada has almost 6000 people over 100. If these statistics interest you, read the article.
4. The balance we’ve struggled for years to establish in our lives: work, family and me time, now happens, naturally.
5. We know ourselves and dress, act and work to compliment it and not try to become the person everyone else expects us to be.
6. Humor and laughter are crucial to a healthy life. Please hear ‘humor’, and not sarcasm or mockery, so often used to put people down (a personal pet peeve). Age allows me a greater understand of their importance.
7. Forgiveness is separate from forgetting. The former means allowing the past to stay where it belongs, and not letting it poison us. Too much of the latter means, we’ll put yourself back into the position of having to forgive the same old things, all over again.
8. People care about their own stuff, not ours. This statement is liberating. If we act stupid one night, or say things we shouldn’t have said to someone, there’s no need to stress too much. If necessary, apologize. Otherwise let it go. People have their own demons to battle. They’re not worried about ours.
9. Our lives are our own. We do what we decide, and decide what we want.
When I was growing up, when someone passed away, we’d quote: Only the good die young, from Billy Joel’s song of the same name. I think I find another line from this song more: I’d rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the saints.
Finding some redemption for who we are and uncovering a happiness we’ve never known before requires a certain amount of accepting, and even embracing, our dark side. Even if it’s just a bit.
Copyright 2013. Monique Martel. All rights reserved.